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How to Help Children during a Divorce (and After)

September 28, 2022
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Posted By: Thrive Counseling Federal Way
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Divorce is tough on parents, to be sure, but when parents go their separate ways in a divorce, kids can develop feelings of grief, loss, fear, and even self-blame. Having a qualified therapist on standby for divorce counseling for kids can help children develop a healthy attitude toward their new normal.

Children’s Counseling in Federal Way

While parents may realize there is no way to save a troubled marriage, kids are often caught in the emotional trauma of envisioning their life without both parents living under the same roof. Establishing a new routine for kids during co-parenting can be challenging, but child counselors at Thrive Counseling Center in Federal Way can help.

Kids are resilient, but divorce can lead to behavioral issues and depression if we don't take the proper steps to promote their mental health. We welcome both parents and kids to Thrive Counseling Center so that your family feels whole even in the wake of divorce.

How Can Parents Support Kids at Home?

There are some proactive steps parents can take even in the early stages of a separation.

  • Tell the child together, if possible.
  • Avoid negativity about the other parent.
  • Answer children’s questions honestly without going into too much detail.
  • Reassure the child that both parents still love them.
  • Avoid asking for information about the other parent from the child.
  • Don’t put kids in the middle.
  • Work with the other parent toward a viable co-parenting plan.
  • Don’t cancel plans with children.
  • Provide kids with a reliable routine.
  • Let them know it’s ok to want to be with the other parent.

As parents, it’s important to keep adult issues amongst the adults and to work together to help your child maintain their sense of comfort, belonging, and knowing they will always be cared for.

Signs Your Child Might Be Stressed by Divorce

  • Acting out or anger
  • Sadness and depression
  • Expressing guilt
  • Disrupted sleep
  • Changes in eating patterns
  • Academic issues
  • Separation anxiety

We are here to help your family thrive as you define the next chapter of your story. We welcome you to reach out to arrange a booking for yourself or your kids. Divorce is the end of a marriage but also the beginning of something new and exciting.

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We are happy to welcome our patients back to our Federal Way office for in-person counseling sessions. Please call us at 206-567-7267, text us at 206-659-1153, or email us to set up an appointment. You don't have to go through this time alone.